Monday, April 4, 2011

reporting from normal-ville

  • Not much to report here. I reach the 18 week mark Wednesday, which is pretty exciting. I am starting to look pregnant now. I've gained a total of 8 pounds, which the doc says is normal. I did go shopping at one of the major maternity stores, and when I tried on the 7 month belly, I freaked out. Seeing myself in the mirror was quite shocking. I think it must have been just the vision of me pregnant that shocked me most. Sometimes I still can't believe it's happening.

  • I go for my anatomy scan ultrasound next week. I am excited to see the bebe again, although I hope and pray there are no revealing shots shown to me, as I do not wish to know the sex of the baby. My doc took blood from me last week at my appointment to do a quad screen, which I told her I was told the results wouldn't be accurate since this started as a triplet pregnancy. She seemed confused about this, but I still gave blood. She also seemed to think I should get an amnio. I don't want one. I think my uterus has been through enough in the past 18 weeks; let's just give it a rest until it has to do its thing in August or September. I don't want some doc poking a hole in it right now. Other than being 36, there are no mitigating factors that would suggest I get one.

  • I've got 4 weeks of classes left, then a small break before summer school. I am teaching this summer. I thought I might take it off, and I would have for sure if there were still 3, but since I am "normal," I might as well work this summer. The extra money is nice anyway. However, I got my schedule for the fall, and it was weird to think that I will open the semester, teach a few weeks, give birth, then someone will take over my teaching load until I return (2 weeks? 4 weeks? 6 weeks? whatever). I do not get maternity leave per se, but I can take my sick time and get paid while using FMLA. I know some companies and states have their own laws, but I work for the state, a pretty poor state, and there is no mandated maternity leave for teachers. What is the best state to get pregnant and/or have a baby? I am curious to know.

  • I am very fortunate that both DH and I have jobs that are flexible in our schedules. According to our plans, we will not need daycare, and this child will be parented by one of us full-time. Is it possible to be a stay-at-home unit when both parents work? I think it is. Because, what does it mean to be stay at home? Here's our plan:

I am out of the house from 7-12 MWF and 8-10 T/H to teach and do office hours, and DH parents the child. I get home and he goes to work: he'll work his hours ( he's the boss/chef at a restaurant) when it's best. I know this is all plans on paper, but it looks pretty awesome. We'll see how the plan is played out.


Alex said...

So glad to hear everything is going so well!!! I hear you on the amnio, unless it's absolutely necessary, no need to cause further trauma to your ute! And I'm so incredibly jealous that you two will be able to both work and take care of the baby without daycare. This is awesome!!!

Kim said...

Glad to hear your doing so well. That flexible schedule will be so nice, I dream of being a stay at home mom...but being able to tag team sounds even better.

Not sure on the best state, I think it's in other
countries they get an entire year off.

Jill said...

That sounds like a fantastic parenting plan and I really hope it works out the way you want! Just make sure there is time when you can be together too. Congrats on 18 weeks!!

Roccie said...

It sounds like a wonderful plan. Doesnt that give you a big peace of mind?

Congrats on 2nd T. I cannot believe it got here so soon.

You owe us some belly shots.

Anonymous said...

I'm glad that you are doing well and trucking right along. Your tag-team stay-at-home schedule sounds absolutely fabulous and I admit that I am a bit jealous. I really hope that it works out just as you have it there on paper. I don't know if there are any good states for maternity leave... I have family and friends who are teachers in Missouri, Florida and Virginia and none of them have much paid leave.

Panamahat said...

Glad to hear that everything is going well, and 'normal'. I hope to hear more of the same in your next post!

HopeBPatient said...

Sounds like things are going great! So glad to hear it! Your childcare situation sounds great. I'm sure it will be tough at times but it's nice to know that you have a possible way to have one or the other of you spending time with your little one. Take care!

tishi said...

Nice Plan....My hubby and I are working on the same plan, a tag team situation. I live in Canada where we do get the full year off, but if your SELF employed as we BOTH are you get NO maternity leave (EEEKKK)!!